Just Say NO
Do you ever find yourself saying yes to something or someone, only to then wish you had said no?
This is a skill that I’m learning through reading, listening, and practicing. At this point in my life, I feel ready to become more of a practitioner, instead of a student. One is active, while the other is passive. There’s a world of difference between knowing something, and acting upon that knowledge.
If we want to level up our inner game and rise up in the professional field, we have to get good at saying no. There is some merit in saying yes to opportunities when we’re beginning any relationship, or job. But higher degrees of success demand that we say no, more often than yes.
It seems clear that we don’t drag and fall short in areas of our lives because we seek out a lot of negative things and ideas. But rather, we lose because we say yes to too many mediocre things, ideas, and behaviors.
Time is precious and fleeting. We are personally responsible for our own schedules, and must manage them with hyper precision, if we have any ambitions. If we want to achieve these ambitions, our actions must be in alignment with them.
It’s extremely hard to do this when we’re constantly distracted by other people and their agendas. We allow them to steal our time. We can choose to stay focused. We can decide to deploy discipline. This obviously applies to addictions as well.
I am in the process of asking myself these questions and so much more. My quest is one of self awareness, honesty, and service. I say no to habitually somking, drinking, and substance abuse in general.
I invite you to join me in becoming more strategic in life and aim at our own version of success. I encourage you to get playful with saying no to quantity, and saying yes to quality.
If you haven’t already, search your soul, and ask yourself deeply important questions.
What do you dream of doing? What are some of your primary goals? What excuses are you ready to release? Who would you be if you were honest with yourself? In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to (distractions, invitations, etc.)?
What’s your perspective about this subject?
What approaches have helped you on this path in your life?