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The Dichotomy Of Leadership

The Dichotomy Of Leadership


Balancing The Challenges Of Extreme Ownership To Lead And Win

Leadership. It’s one of the most challenging roles to execute with excellence. If you’re in a leadership position, you’re going to make mistakes. You might even straight up fail at some things. But it’s your responsibility to learn from the past and make things better in the future.

This episode is for those who want to become leaders, and for current leaders to learn how to improve their strategies. Listen and learn how to balance the complex qualities of leadership so that we can lead those we care about to something essential, and enjoy the process.

This is part 1 of 3 for a review of a book written by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. They’re retired Navy Seals who now run a company called Echelon Front that consults businesses about how to level up their games. Jocko is also the host of Jocko Podcast

Episode Timeline

0:00 - Prelude

4:20 - Book begins

8:08 - Balancing The Challenges Of Extreme Ownership

9:05 - The Ultimate Dichotomy

10:40 - Own It All But Empower Others

13:30 - Symptoms Of Micromanagement

17:01 - Symptoms Of A Hands-off Leader

23:18 - Resolute But Not Overbearing

26:14 - When to Mentor | When to Fire

31:40 - Epilogue

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Balancing the Challenges of Extreme Ownership

If mistakes happen, effective leaders don’t place blame on others. They take ownership of the mistakes, determine what went wrong, develop solutions to correct those mistakes and prevent them from happening again as they move forward.

The goal of this book is to help leaders find the right balance in leadership within teams, among peers, and both up and down the chain of command. While it isn’t easy, through knowledge, disciplined practice, and sustained effort, anyone can master finding the equilibrium in the Dichotomy of Leadership.

Resolute, but Not Overbearing.

Leaders must set high standards and drive the team to achieve those standards, but they cannot be domineering or inflexible on matters of little strategic importance. To find this balance, leaders must carefully evaluate when and where to hold the line and when to allow some slack.

The most important explanation a leader can give to the team is WHY. When a leader must hold the line and enforce standards, it must be done with the explanation of why it is important, why it will help accomplish the mission, and what the consequences are for failing to do so.

As a leader, you have to balance the dichotomy, to be resolute where it matters but never inflexible and uncompromising on matters of little importance to the overall good of the team and the strategic mission.

When to Mentor, When to Fire

Most underperformers don’t need to be fired, they need to be led. But once every effort has been made to help an underperformer improve and all efforts have failed, a leader has to make the tough call to let that person go. This is the duty and responsibility of every leader.

The dichotomy in this situation is balancing between taking care of individuals by keeping them around even if they lack the skill set to do the job properly and protecting the team by removing people from positions where they negatively impact the team and the mission.

Instead of focusing on one individual, leaders must remember that there is a team—and that the performance of the team trumps the performance of a single individual. Instead of continuing to invest in one subpar performer, once a concerted effort has been made to coach and train that individual to no avail, the leader must remove the individual.

The Dichotomy Of Leadership | part 2

The Dichotomy Of Leadership | part 2

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